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Learning to become more mindful can be seen as an act of kindness – towards ourselves and others. When we are not mindful, we are often on autopilot – thinking, speaking and acting in habitual ways that we have learnt over the years. Beacuse these ways are habitual, we tend to be unaware of them but we can sometimes feel stuck in our patterns as we face familiar feelings or reactions such as anxiety, irritation, disappointment or exhaustion.
We are habitual in the way we use our bodies (how we move and how much tension we hold) and also in the way we think. When on autopilot, we’re usually unaware of what we’re doing to our bodies until we get a very strong message in terms of pain, discomfort or fatigue. Equally, we’re unaware when our minds get stuck in a groove of repetitive thoughts – thoughts which are often unhelpful and quite often untrue – until we realise that our mood has dipped and we feel unhappy or low.
This lack of awareness or mindlessness also means that we don’t fully experience the richness of life. When we’re so busy (physically and mentally) there’s no time for being.
Mindfulness is not about emptying the mind and stopping thoughts from coming in nor is it about only having positive thoughts. It is about cultivating a deliberate and alive awareness of our experience – whether physical sensations, thoughts or feelings etc. It is about waking up from autopilot mode and reconnecting mind and body. It is also about learning to meet our experience with genuine interest and friendliness or kindness. This is different from our habitual, judgemental or self-critical attitude and is an approach that can be immensely healing and helpful for our wellbeing.
Find out more by watching these short video clips: https://livingandlovingmindfully.co.uk/mindfulness-video-clips/